PureInsight | December 17, 2006
[PureInsight.org] During
cultivation practice, I tend to point out others' problems very often,
but I found it seldom achieves the results I wanted to see. For
instance, I often request my wife, also a practitioner, to conduct
herself like a practitioner. However, for a long time, I found it is
very hard to change even a small movement in her doing the exercises. I
have also been trying to change some aspects of another practitioner
that I don't like. Although I have tried all kinds of methods, he
hasn't changed at all, and the conflicts between us have grown.
When the conflicts grew very large, I would tell myself I should only
focus on doing the three things well and it isn't necessary to ask for
trouble and offend others like that. I should change to just implying
my points. Whether others got it or not was their problem. But, on
second thought, I felt, "Aren't Dafa practitioners supposed to
safeguard the Fa and validate the Fa? If we ignore problems or beat
around the bush when pointing out problems, isn't it like other
religious groups who protect attachments and keep the peace among
people? How can we improve as one body? Moreover, if practitioners all
keep silent when they see problems, what sense does this kind of
experience sharing make?
I had been stranded between god and human with these thoughts for a
long time until, one day, I came across a story in Aesop's Fables: "The
North Wind and the Sun." The North Wind tried his power and blew with
all his might, but the keener his blasts, the closer the Traveler
wrapped his cloak around him. But as the Sun shone his warmth, the
Traveler soon took off his cloak. I learned from the story that
coercion cannot change people's hearts. Only warm and kind ways of
talking to others will allow them to accept your point easily.
I finally realized that I had been playing the role of North Wind. When
I pointed out others' problems, I was often overbearing and even
wouldn't let people off easily. Isn't it like the North Wind trying to
remove the Traveller's cloak by coercion? Some practitioners were very
kind and easygoing when pointing out others' problems, and there was no
anger at all. The practitioners whose problems were pointed out not
only accepted it but also thanked him for his merciful correction.
Isn't this like the Sun shining out his warmth to get the Traveller to
take off his cloak?
It's indeed so. As long as we're still practicing cultivation in the
human world, it's inevitable that we have problmes and attachments.
Since everyone has different attachments, reminding each other is
helping each other to improve togher. If we talk to our fellow
practitioners like we would treat an enemy, doesn't that mean we think
we will never have problems ourselves?
One day, while preparing for an activity to expose the CCP's organ
harvesting from living Falun Gong practitioners, I made a flyer and
asked for feedback. The practitioner that I mentioned earlier didn't
like the contents. I thought the flyer was pretty good, and the
problems, if there were any, were just minor. Therefore I thought he
was retaliating at me for often pointing out his problems. Later on, he
made another flyer and his text was very succint and pointed. In
comparison, mine was tediously long and loose. This example tells me
that what I think is right may not be right, therefore being humble is
better.
In addition, I sometimes see that because of conflicts some
practitioners have developed a negative attitude about Dafa work and
this has caused the whole body to suffer great loss. Think about it,
even everyday people pay attention to "enduring humiliation for the
sake of preserving unity." Can't practitioners do what everyday people
do? Otherwise, aren't practitioners putting their personal feelings
before Dafa?
Translated from: http://www.zhengjian.org/zj/articles/2006/11/28/41138.html
