PureInsight | January 23, 2025
[PureInsight.org] In any group, there will be conflicts and feelings of being wronged and treated unfairly. How you deal with it is the key.
I would like to share the stories of my fellow practitioners A and B.
Fellow practitioner A, who has a high level of education, strong abilities, and a strong personality, once worked in an important position in a certain project. He felt that he was treated unfairly by a supervisor and had long been dissatisfied. In addition, he was also suspected of being a spy by some local practitioners, and he could not get over this for a long time. He would tell everyone about the injustice he had experienced, which would also arouse sympathy and resonance from some people.
I myself was also very willing to listen to A's story and sympathize with him because I was also dissatisfied with the environment. Now I feel that this is not right and I feel very sorry. I realized that the key is not who is right or wrong in a specific matter, who is reasonable or unreasonable. On the one hand, as the saying goes, "A man has his own reasons, and a woman has her own reasons." Some things can be seen differently from different perspectives. On the other hand, as a cultivator, how to face injustice and grievances is to follow the teachings of Dafa, rather than "Qiu Ju's lawsuit" style of asking for "fairness" and complaining everywhere.
Conflicts are not accidental. From the Fa, I understand that the majority of our karma from life to life has been taken away by Master. The rest is divided into countless parts, which manifest as various difficulties. We need to eliminate karma and improve our xinxing from these difficulties. These are originally our own difficulties, and there is absolutely no accident. They are all debts to be repaid. They are related to who we have hurt in the past. We endure the pain, treat the other party kindly and tolerate them, and then the debt is repaid and the xinxing is improved. This is an indispensable step on our cultivation path. If we complain when we are wronged and complain when we are unfair, how can we cultivate?
Later, fellow practitioner A, who was still quite young, passed away suddenly, which surprised and saddened everyone.
Let's talk about the story of fellow practitioner B. Fellow practitioner B gave people the impression of being very gentle, and was very humble and kind to others. His wife was very strong-willed. She was influenced by the evil CCP party's lies and opposed Dafa. She did not let their children learn Dafa. Fellow practitioner B did not argue with his wife, and his xinxing was very good. After Fellow Practitioner B worked in a project for a while, because he had not been out of China for a long time, he was suspected of being a spy for some reason and had to leave the project. I remember that when Fellow Practitioner B talked about this, he did not feel wronged or complain, but just felt a little frustrated, but he still kept his xinxing very well. Later, I heard that after his child went abroad, he quickly obtained the Fa and became a very diligent young disciple. I was not surprised at all. I felt that this was related to Fellow Practitioner B's good cultivation.
After many years, I have observed that practitioners like Fellow A are generally very competitive. They argue about right and wrong in everything. They cannot bear being wronged, let alone being treated unfairly. Otherwise, they will hold a grudge and go around to "seek justice." Some even ignore Master's teachings and "tell" on social media to seek support and understanding, which makes ordinary people who do not understand Dafa have a negative impression of the Dafa cultivation group and seriously damages the reputation of Dafa. Some of these people initially have a complaint against a certain practitioner, and then develop a complaint against the people around the practitioner, and then expand to a complaint against the Dafa cultivation group... Once it starts, it is unstoppable and very dangerous.
I used to have a similar mentality to fellow practitioner A. When I felt wronged and unfair, I complained everywhere, sympathized with people who shared the same ideas, understood and supported each other, and sought interpersonal warmth. Now looking back, I realize that this was a behavior that deviated greatly from Dafa. Not only should I not behave like this, but I should not have any oppositional emotions or resistance towards anyone in my heart. This is how a cultivator should maintain his xinxing.
From the perspective of traditional culture, the ancient sayings of "accept adversity with submission", "it is better to resolve grievances than to create them", "repay grievances with virtue", etc., are good ways to deal with conflicts. It is not about going against them, but about using a compliant attitude, kindness, tolerance, and forgiveness to resolve grievances in a good way. As a cultivator, we should do better than the ancients, instead of using the philosophy of struggle under the CCP party culture to deal with conflicts.
Please kindly point out if there are any inappropriate points.
Chinese version: https://www.zhengjian.org/node/292326
